Image via WikipediaA marriage in crisis is usually pretty easy to spot by looking at your sex life. Do you have sex infrequently? When you do have sex, do you have to make an appointment ahead of time? If so, then it would be safe to say that sex is no longer a spontaneous moment in your relationship. First, look at how often you have sex. While sex isn’t the whole point of the marriage, it’s much more important than just the act of... It’s a crucial part of a healthy marriage! When sex becomes a scheduled activity, a marriage can certainly recover. In fact, most marriages go through a phase very much like that when a baby is born. Each child makes it more and more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner over a meal or before leaving for work, let alone finding a spare hour to make love.
But a marriage in crisis never breaks out of that pattern. Instead, even when the time is there the partners don’t have spontaneous sex. Usually there’s very little physical affection shown during the day either. People in love and happy to be together tend to hug and kiss different times through the day.
A loving couple will often touch each other just in passing. One will give the other a fast kiss on the cheek or forehead for no reason. Does this still happen in your marriage? Do you ever sneak a quick pinch or pat on the bottom or a sexy look in the middle of the day?
Biblical speaking, "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. A wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, a husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:3&4
When this natural law begins to disappear, it can be a sign that the marriage is headed for trouble. The other thing that goes in a very obvious way is common courtesy. When you say “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “please,” throughout your day to strangers more than you say them to your partner, something’s wrong.
When we take our spouses for granted in this way, eventually this will lead to a sort of coldness between a man and a woman. There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and thank our mate for the pleasure they bring during the course of everyday life. Most men miss the mark when it comes to showing affection and whether they know it or not this is directly related to their sex life or lack there of.
The good news is that if you’re seeing these warning signs, you can start working right now to correct them. And you don’t have to make a fanfare about it or announce the change. Simply change what you do and become better at it.
Frisky foreplay is about creative sensual intimacy, great sex is the goal. Inspire each other to go beyond the ordinary – make your adult playtime extra special.
Make a point of giving affection and unexpected kisses. Make time for making love. Do these things and your marriage in crisis could soon be back on track and you could be happier than ever.
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