Is Lack of Sex Putting Your Marriage In Crisis?

Image via WikipediaA marriage in crisis is usually pretty easy to spot by looking at your sex life. Do you have sex infrequently?  When you do have sex, do you have to make an appointment ahead of time? If so, then it would be safe to say that sex is no longer a spontaneous moment in your relationship. First, look at how often you have sex. While sex isn’t the whole point of the marriage, it’s much more important than just the act of... It’s a crucial part of a healthy marriage!

When sex becomes a scheduled activity, a marriage can certainly recover. In fact, most marriages go through a phase very much like that when a baby is born. Each child makes it more and more difficult to find the time to spend with our partner over a meal or before leaving for work, let alone finding a spare hour to make love.

But a marriage in crisis never breaks out of that pattern. Instead, even when the time is there the partners don’t have spontaneous sex. Usually there’s very little physical affection shown during the day either. People in love and happy to be together tend to hug and kiss different times through the day.

A loving couple will often touch each other just in passing. One will give the other a fast kiss on the cheek or forehead for no reason. Does this still happen in your marriage? Do you ever sneak a quick pinch or pat on the bottom or a sexy look in the middle of the day?

Biblical speaking, "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband. A wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, a husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife." 1 Corinthians 7:3&4

When this natural law begins to disappear, it can be a sign that the marriage is headed for trouble. The other thing that goes in a very obvious way is common courtesy. When you say “thank you,” “excuse me,” and “please,” throughout your day to strangers more than you say them to your partner, something’s wrong.

When we take our spouses for granted in this way, eventually this will lead to a sort of coldness between a man and a woman. There is simply no reason not to be affectionate and thank our mate for the pleasure they bring during the course of everyday life. Most men miss the mark when it comes to showing affection and whether they know it or not this is directly related to their sex life or lack there of.

The good news is that if you’re seeing these warning signs, you can start working right now to correct them. And you don’t have to make a fanfare about it or announce the change. Simply change what you do and become better at it.

Frisky foreplay is about creative sensual intimacy, great sex is the goal. Inspire each other to go beyond the ordinary – make your adult playtime extra special.

Make a point of giving affection and unexpected kisses. Make time for making love. Do these things and your marriage in crisis could soon be back on track and you could be happier than ever.

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Love Making Mistakes Husbands Make

Image via WikipediaMales,  me ask you this... How much do you really know about having good sex with your wife? What you think you know and what you actually know could be on opposite ends of the spectrum when it comes to erotic bliss.

If you make the wrong moves, this could lead to a lot of basic errors that will negatively affect your sex life. Mistakes are costly! Ranking in the top three love making mistakes men make is...

1) Neglecting Foreplay to Enjoy Intercourse Sooner

Gentlemen, you probably already know that it requires a bit of work to make your woman scream, squirm and squirt in the bedroom. That is if you aim to please her.

It can take a female up to 15 minutes to climax. Can you keep going for that long by pure intercourse alone? If not then you'll have to stimulate her body with foreplay instead, learn how to last longer in bed.

People in a relationship (especially men) tend to neglect foreplay so they can begin to enjoy intercourse sooner, but did you know that foreplay is actually said to intensify orgasms?

That's right. If you kiss, caress and touch longer, you can make your lovemaking even more satisfying.

2) Fail to Stimulate the Sensitive Areas on a Woman's Body

There are five sensitive areas on a woman's body that will stimulate her when worked properly by kissing or caressing. These are the ear lobes, neck, nipples, clitoris and the "G" spot.

She might have to help you find the G- spot but as a general guide the G-spot is actually a zone, rather than an actual 'spot.' The G-spot is located about 2 inches inside the vagina on the topside. (On the underside of her stomach.)

When you find it you'll know, a female can quite literally lose control of her limbs. Don't be surprised if you get kneed in the face or get elbowed as she moans in ecstasy.

3) Make it Last, Don't Cut Her Short

Yes indeed, you need to slow down and take your time. If you want to make it even better, tease her in a playful way. (This works like crazy.)

If you find something that she really enjoys, stop doing it, move back for a moment, and then do it again. The more you pull back and push forward, the more she'll want it and the more intense her experience will be. There are many games you can play together in order to heighten this anticipation.

Please Don't Let it Get You Down

Guys often feel "unmanly" if they can't satisfy their woman from intercourse. But what they need to understand is that a large number of women don't achieve orgasm through normal lovemaking.

Just knowing this takes a lot of pressure off men. Now there's no need to get upset when your women dosen't reach orgasm. Instead, men can master the art of going down on a woman.

If you want more indepth information on having great sex and giving women incredible pleasure, check out Michael Webb's book, you won't regret it.
The Virtuoso Lover

Great Sex Will Always Be About Flow

One doesn't need to press for it, trying too hard to please women in any area will cause you to mess it up that's a guarantee. The tragedy is that most men don't even see this one coming and end up working against themselves. The harder they try, the harder they make it for themselves.

One of the temptations of having too many tricks in the bag is to unleash them in a grand overflow and put on a show. Needless to say, you'll reek of the 'trying too hard' syndrome. Instead of pleasing her, you'll turn her off for the vibe masks a specific fear the fear of inadequacy, that nagging feeling of not being good enough.

No matter how fantastic making love can be, there’s no denying it can get boring over the years. And the reason is because sex in its basic act is always the same. But the danger is letting it get “too routine,” which can begin to affect your relationship.

The best way to protect your love life and precious connection with your woman is to have lots of new love making ideas ready at your disposal. That's the secret.

In fact, when you have an abundance of new tips and techniques ready, you’ll enjoy more hot, steamy and passionate sex. Using these new tips will give both of you a new found enthusiasm to make love and even make love more often. Warning... don't use all of these new tips at once. Take it slow in exposing these new techniques.

Set a Romantic Mood

People often think that using candles, music, incense and even rose petals to set the mood of your passion is too common place. Are they kidding! Your partner will love you for this. It takes a little work but once the mood is set... it's Wooo Baby!

Women, imagine how pleased you would feel if someone went to all the trouble to create a special love making occasion that you can cherish for years to come. Could this be so common place because people enjoy it so much?

Eight Basic Positions

Books show dozens, if not hundreds, of sexual positions, but the reality is that there are maybe only eight basic positions, with slight variations for each.

Men, so what happens when you've tried all eight positions over and over again? Let's face it... in the end making love is generally always the same.

That’s why you should explore all aspects of sexuality about each other. I don't mean anything freaky here. I just mean cultivate an adventurous spirit. Turn foreplay into a game.

Gain total control and last longer in bed tonight

Try a new place. It should be in a private/ remote place of course, don't go to central park you'll just get arrested. There are literally hundreds of ways of making love. Learn to make it more exciting, passionate, fulfilling and long-term, rather than just trying new positions.

Rent a limo that has a privacy screen and have the driver drive as long as you think you need to have an amazing lovemaking experience in the back.